Female Deejay and media personality Lynda Ddane has shared her harrowing experience of her first serious relationship that almost made her lose her life.
During her appearance on a podcast, the NTV The Beat presenter recalled her high school, which she says was majorly influenced by her mother’s piece of advice that a woman must settle with the man she meets, a myth she considers to be the worst counsel she has ever received.
Lynda claimed she was trapped in a toxic relationship and put in all her effort with this mindset that it had to work. She also forced the relationship because she was scared of failure but when she realized it was going nowhere, she quickly snapped out of it and walked away.
I love my mother so much but the worst advice I ever got in my life was from her. She told us to settle down but I tried it and it almost killed me. You know how they make us listen to all these fairytale stories of how the guy you meet in high school is probably the one you are going to marry. And then somehow there is that African tradition side that they add to it of how you have to make it work; so, you have all this in your head and if it doesn’t work, it is your fault.
If forcing life was a person, it was me by then. But I realized I was all over the place and snapped out of it,” Lynda Ddane said.
Despite the bad experience, Lynda Ddane remains positive, emphasizing that not all relationships are traumatic because people have different timelines.
She, however, advises people to have fewer expectations of their partners and relationships because of how unpredictable they are.
I’m not saying it’s a bad thing. So many people have different timings. I think that is the one thing that they forgot to tell. Our timings are different and it’s not always the textbook kind of person they put in our heads. You never know who your person is going to be and I don’t think they tell people that all the time because they come out expecting their relationships to be in a certain way, Lynda noted.
