Singer Jose Chameleone’s wife Daniella Atim has opened up about the challenges she encountered with her in-laws regarding her kids.
On Thursday evening, Daniella took to Instagram and shared a few memories of her mothering struggles in honour of National Daughter’s Day.
The mother of five revealed that before having her first child with Chameleone, her in-laws made it clear that they preferred a male as the couple’s firstborn because having a boy child as the firstborn guaranteed a man’s place in society.
To satisfy her in-law’s demands, she embarked on prayer, fasting, and tithe. She gave birth to her first son, Abba, a few months later, and then another son soon after.
To her amazement, the in-laws shifted the tale and then requested for a girl something she considered ridiculous.
It is at this point that Daniella stopped her kids from visiting their paternal grandparents without her, to avoid instilling certain ideas in them.
She became a topic of discussion in the Mayanja family meetings, but she had developed a thick skin and nothing could move her anymore.
When she welcomed her daughter Alba into the world, her in-laws were excited but they knew not to make tasteless comments around her since she had already restored her inner warrior.
I remember all the tingles I felt when I fell in love ,I couldn’t wait to have kids with the person I loved .i had met his family and most of his friends ,his parents told me they wanted a “boy child” as a first child (even though this sounded very impolite to my ears ).
I was in love and I embarked on a journey to seek out and cry to God to give me a son as my first child ,i fasted for a son ,I offered tithe for a son and I even went as far as making a pact with God,I told him “God if you give me a son for my first child ,I will ensure that he serves you “Ofcourse I had a son ,God gave me the son I wanted and we gave him just the perfect name Abba.
I was smart enough to know that it didn’t matter what gender my child was but here I had fallen in love with a man from a very traditional family ,to them a boy child sealed a man’s status in society and now it was my duty to do that .And then I had a second son and even a third son and this time they moved goal posts ,they wanted a girl but trust me by this time I had started to outgrow the standards they had set for me as their son’s wife ,I was done walking on egg shells and I wanted the courageous girl Fr John raised to come out of her shell,I wanted to be the brave ,principled girl every one refered to me as .it was time to start living the values Fr John had instilled in us .HUMBLE and FIERCE.
I immediately stopped my kids from visiting their paternal grand parents if I was not in their company ,I did not want my kids getting certain ideas in their heads .i became the VILLAIN who was the topic of discussion in family WhatsApp groups but secretly I was thumping my chest in victory ,I had won this battle and I could raise my kids as they kept pointing fingers .
Alba was born ,she was an instant sunshine ,my in-laws were excited but by this time they already knew not to make tasteless comments around me ,the warrior in me had woken up and has never gone to sleep since then .
Anyway ,National daughter’s day was a few days ago but in our home it is children’s day everyday ,we celebrate the biggest gift God has given humanity …LIFE